Today I am saddened to hear news an old work friend has lost her battle with cancer. This is why it was so hard for me to write my blog ‘Silver Linings’, because I know people who are fighting their own cancer battles with a more real, confronting prognosis.
Tansy added me on Facebook back in November, and an email followed shortly after. She had learnt through Facebook about my diagnosis and wanted to share her story with me. She had been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer a year ago. She had already been through MANY rounds chemo and some radiation. “Still fighting though,” she said. She reached out to me as she thought it would help having someone to talk to who was going through similar treatment and offered herself to me for the same reasons – if I needed to talk at any time, she was there for me. She had heard about my blog and asked if I could send her the details.
I’m so glad she messaged me and I hope my words gave her some comfort or positivity through her battle. It is always hard for me when I know someone’s prognosis is a lot worse than mine. She informed me that her prognosis wasn’t so good, “my cancer had spread to the liver and a few other little spots but I still have a positive attitude as I believe it’s 80% attitude and 20% meds.” My blogs are so positive because I feel good about winning the battle – I’m not sure how I would be if it wasn’t, you can never know. I was glad to know she was still remaining positive.
Tansy shared her chemo experience with me. She too had reacted to one of the drugs and was reliant on phenergen – something I could definitely relate to. She did a tough battle with chemo – mine was over in six rounds; six rounds was just the start for her.
“You keep in touch too, and it’s been great being able to share this with you. I haven’t really told many people except family and close friends. Just kept a low profile. Take care lovely and speak again soon. Xx” This was the last message I ever received from her and I regret not taking the time to check up on her progress.
My thoughts are with her family and friends. I hope they don’t mind me sharing her words and the details of her battle (if any family member or friend sees this and wants me to take it down or edit I would without hesitation). It saddens me deeply and I hope I have done her justice with this dedication. She was a beautiful person, always friendly and cheerful. Tansy Cartwright, may you rest in peace.